Is There Such a Thing as a “Good Divorce”?
Divorce is never an easy thing, but for some couples it may be the only way out of a turbulent or dead end marriage. Sadly, a recent research said that, where children are involved, there is no such thing as a “good divorce”, but some are definitely “better” than others.
If you’re hoping to turn conflict with your ex-partner into some form of peaceful resolution, this article has some tips. Follow these pointers, and you will be aiming at as close to a “good” divorce as is possible.
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
During the divorce proceedings, communication is easily the most important thing. Make sure that you are reasonable with your spouse, however strong the feelings you have against him or her might be. If the two of you are able to communicate civilly and on good terms, you stand more chance of having a “good” divorce, saving what will amount to be quite a lot of time and money.
If you want to resolve your divorce peacefully and wish to move on with respect for each other, the best way to ensure there are no ill feelings remaining between the two of you is by communicating clearly and pleasantly.
If the two of you are already on speaking terms, great! This means the quickest, easiest and cheapest method of divorce is open to you. You can both meet up, preferably at a neutral place, and discuss the next steps. Figure out what the both of you want from the divorce – you can get a mediator if necessary – as this will be much less costly than hiring solicitors.
Everything should run quite smoothly if the two of you are on relatively civil terms, and it should all go quite quickly and cheaply, too; neither of you have to hire expensive lawyers or spend days in court squabbling over a record collection.
A Trustworthy Solicitor
If communication is number one on the “important things for a good divorce” list, then getting a lawyer you trust is a close second. First of all, if you do need to hire a lawyer, make sure the firm is made up of family lawyers or divorce lawyers; this will ensure that the one that sides with you will be highly experienced in the relative fields.
Take a peek at their records – you don’t want to get into bed with a group of lawyers that couldn’t win even the easiest of cases, but at the same time you might want to avoid a firm that does nothing but win, as that might signify questionable methods.
Any reputable family law firm will offer a free consultation for your case, so you are able to visit a number of different companies for advice; use this to your advantage, as you can pick the firm you feel is best for you.
By communicating civilly and employing a decent solicitor, you can rest, assured in the knowledge that you are doing the best you can to ensure that you will have a good divorce.